The Power of the Handshake

I don't think we actively consider the power of a handshake until we encounter a really bad one. Perhaps it is the one that crushes every bone, the handshake as limp as a dead fish, the one that nearly vibrates our arm off, or the sweaty palm; each is equally uncomfortable and distasteful. In the career world, a strong handshake is vital. The handshake is a bigger deal than it seems like it should be because it is a symbol. A symbol of friendship and acquaintance, a symbol of assertiveness and confidence, essentially, a symbol of power and maturity.

In my experiences, I remember two types of handshakes: the strong, confident ones and the weak handshakes. The handshake is particularly important in networking and interviewing, especially as it is usually an accomplice to one's first impression. How do you want to be remembered? Strong, confident, and competent? Or wimpy, weak, and mousy? It seems like women are particularly uncomfortable with using a strong handshake. This is perhaps a reflection of social norms encouraging women to exude humility and avoid situations of power. However, a strong handshake is an important tool in asserting competence and the general ability to "make it with the boys." Already often considered the "weaker sex," women can make a confident statement about their ability to compete by demonstrating their comfort with using a strong, assertive handshake.

I always assumed the handshake as both a greeting and a farewell was a social norm, and thus a given. However, just last week I encountered a perplexing situation where this was apparently not so. At the conclusion of an interview, our committee arouse, hands extended for the customary "Thank you for the opportunity, it was nice to meet you" handshake. But rather than engage in our formal farewell, the individual simply gathered her belongings and rushed out the door. Let me just say her chances for the position were completely destroyed at that point.

Take a look at the Top Ten Bad Handshakes and see if your handshake is on the list:

http://www.wikijob.co.uk/wiki/Top_ten:_bad_handshakes